tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post533774868682542238..comments2023-05-19T07:43:39.284-05:00Comments on Emotional Intensity in Gifted Students: Session 4 - Question 1tiggeronmarshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17701242472897734668noreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-59691152339014257872013-04-18T11:21:21.624-05:002013-04-18T11:21:21.624-05:00 To LB,Definitely agreeing with the process being ... To LB,Definitely agreeing with the process being more important that the outcomes. I am enjoying the process of reading the book and jotting down my thoughts, while reading others ideas. The outcomes will have to take care of themselves. Susannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-22048728362632107332012-07-26T18:34:35.235-05:002012-07-26T18:34:35.235-05:00Agree with you regarding the importance of self aw...Agree with you regarding the importance of self awareness and personal reflection for mentors. Also, I used the think the same thing about the oxygen masks:)S. Acevedonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-75050205387179999382012-07-26T18:25:27.952-05:002012-07-26T18:25:27.952-05:00I also like the "Resiliency and Risk Taking&q...I also like the "Resiliency and Risk Taking" tool. Failure is can be so crushing for the highly able. I read a quote somewhere that communicated that success is not as great a teacher as failure (not sure who stated it). The highly able have so much potential, and it is unfortunate when their ability is hindered from flourishing because of the fear of failure.S. Acevedonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-49975347234334393522012-07-26T18:12:48.908-05:002012-07-26T18:12:48.908-05:00The section in Ch. 12 on page 166 titled School Ba...The section in Ch. 12 on page 166 titled School Based Phobias was not an A-HA, but was all new to me. As I read the section, my heart broke for the parents of students who struggle with this phobia. The coaching strategies, though I have never used them, seem that they would be effective. I anticipate that I will be referring back to this book and its resources throughout my career.S. Acevedonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-38985640321554929272012-07-26T16:14:36.030-05:002012-07-26T16:14:36.030-05:00@ travelinbug I agree. I know that in my class I r...@ travelinbug I agree. I know that in my class I really need to encourage risk taking more. Let a kid try something and make sure they are not penalized if they fall short of the expectation. My only issue is, this school year I'm looking at 37 GT kids in class, along with teaching two other classes. How much do I allow and still keep my own sanity?Jeffnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-4359873895791083142012-07-26T15:59:28.673-05:002012-07-26T15:59:28.673-05:00My a ha moments were the dialogue boxes. Knowing h...My a ha moments were the dialogue boxes. Knowing how to talk with an emotionally charged GT kid has made talking with my son a lot easier. Being able to kind of antipathetic what he's going to say and then create a response that makes him think is very helpful.WJeffnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-42429021740439531812012-07-26T15:47:49.360-05:002012-07-26T15:47:49.360-05:00In response to CAMallette's post on July 20-
...In response to CAMallette's post on July 20-<br /><br />I agree that in traditional parenting and teaching we are managing problem behaviors and not teaching them how to problem solve and manage their own behavior.I will definitely think about my own conversations with my students and try to "coach" instead of "manage".NDeansnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-19084319998732089672012-07-26T15:27:16.296-05:002012-07-26T15:27:16.296-05:00I thought the section on "Resiliency and Risk...I thought the section on "Resiliency and Risk Taking", on ebook pages 501-502 was very helpful. I did not realize that many gifted kids are uncomfortable with taking any risks for fear of failure. They do not like the feeling of not being successful and therefore will avoid it. Tip Sheet 18 on ebook pages 514-515 listed many great ideas for helping kids develop resiliency and learn to move forward.NDeansnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-62439823749022751192012-07-26T15:20:21.128-05:002012-07-26T15:20:21.128-05:00In response to Sara,
You are right about not bein...In response to Sara, <br />You are right about not being able to find just one aha. The commonality of it all seems to be to stay unemotional, unjudging, and cool. I think my challenge will be staying cool and being able to think about what choices to give a student in a given situation!CAMallettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15274860735325865933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-48577562761473046152012-07-26T09:19:45.054-05:002012-07-26T09:19:45.054-05:00In response to Laura Boyd, I agree with you about ...In response to Laura Boyd, I agree with you about being perfectionists. As i have mentioned previously, i have many students who have this issue (they have to be absolutely correct all the time) and after reading the Tip sheet it provided me with some insight about how/why they feel this way. I hope to use the tip sheet and maybe this can help some of my students this year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-15603859984041602452012-07-26T09:15:50.081-05:002012-07-26T09:15:50.081-05:00My AAH's were the dialogues. I especially lik...My AAH's were the dialogues. I especially liked the one on page 169 with Gabriella being given choices when she refuses to go to school. This is similar to Love and Logic which I try to use in my class. I like to give my students various choices so they feel they are "in control" and have more "ownership" over their choices. sometimes they look at me confused and say "I have a choice over how i do something OR what i can do OR what happens in a certain situation".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-574551365888895352012-07-26T08:08:30.161-05:002012-07-26T08:08:30.161-05:00I agree with KMuske that it is surprising how much...I agree with KMuske that it is surprising how much perfectionism impacts gifted students and their ability to take risks. In looking back, I see how some of my students behaviors were really the struggle with that perfectionism, not the begavior that I thought it was really about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-5334342891949653872012-07-26T08:05:12.886-05:002012-07-26T08:05:12.886-05:00I like the way the author used the "coaching&...I like the way the author used the "coaching" with dialogue strategies. It allowed me to see some situations that have come up and look at the way they could have gone or how saying one thing, resulted in one direction. Providing a coaching of the dialogue supports me in when these situations occur again, I feel that I have a resource to use to move in a better direction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-41405819299363322812012-07-25T20:04:22.354-05:002012-07-25T20:04:22.354-05:00@CWinegar- I completely agree! We are also startin...@CWinegar- I completely agree! We are also starting to see this in the classroom by seeing some adults giving students excuses for not reaching those expectations. We have to maintain a consistency of expectations in order to allow students to gain coping and resiliency skills that will allow them to succeed once they leave our doors.Sara Russohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05512431304528644154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-50406923557131112942012-07-25T20:01:41.583-05:002012-07-25T20:01:41.583-05:00I honestly don't think I could pick a single &...I honestly don't think I could pick a single "aha" from this section. The series of dialogue analyses for each scenario is such that they are applicable to so many situations. Students often know exactly how to push our "mad button" (p. 159) in any given situation. But, being able to see through the series of dialogues how taking a step back, remaining unemotional, and giving the student the feeling that they have some control over an emotional situation by allowing them choices helps diffuse high tension situations and allow you to get back to focusing on the entire class.Sara Russohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05512431304528644154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-80420721778164308792012-07-25T11:28:33.836-05:002012-07-25T11:28:33.836-05:00I also agree with FMoore. Part of our job as teach...I also agree with FMoore. Part of our job as teachers is to help students understand and positively deal with their emotions.elizabeth hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03363537932281338692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-18507387448490280512012-07-25T11:18:36.031-05:002012-07-25T11:18:36.031-05:00I thought the tip sheet on "Managing Perfecti...I thought the tip sheet on "Managing Perfection" (page 162) was informational. The tip sheet could be helpful to the teachers wortking with the students and the parents of those students at home. Another tip sheet I liked was "ReducingSocial and School Anxiety" on page 171.<br />I thought the tips for reducing stress on page 193 were important to all parties: teachers, parents and students.elizabeth hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03363537932281338692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-33020127953859469782012-07-25T08:14:49.253-05:002012-07-25T08:14:49.253-05:00In response to Travelingbug:
I loved Tip Sheet 21:...In response to Travelingbug:<br />I loved Tip Sheet 21: Diffusing Anger<br />The sheet mentions to teach your child or student these tips, but I think it would be a great idea for parents as well. Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you have your anger under control.BChristophersonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-4431063291536845452012-07-25T08:07:14.907-05:002012-07-25T08:07:14.907-05:00In response to Susan and AmyL:
I agree - Redirecti...In response to Susan and AmyL:<br />I agree - Redirecting conversations can help the student/child as well as the adult. There will be less frustration and hopefully will lead to better conversations. In order for this to happen, we need to try and figure out multiple responses for each topic.BChristophersonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-37380646975257707472012-07-25T07:55:34.419-05:002012-07-25T07:55:34.419-05:00I loved the dialogue between the father and son on...I loved the dialogue between the father and son on Pages 158-161. I think this probably happens all too often at home and at school. The parent had to re-think how to speak to his child about perfectionism in his school work and homework. We all need to take a second to re-think and word our concerns in a way that are not accusatory but caring and understanding.BChristophersonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-24593213029334462862012-07-24T08:57:28.372-05:002012-07-24T08:57:28.372-05:00I really liked the dialogue coaching strategies. ...I really liked the dialogue coaching strategies. One line in particular struck me, from page 165. It said, "The parent is setting a difficult boundary and expectation." I wanted to cheer for the parent! Far too often I see parents bailing their kids out of things when the going gets tough and I think it really interferes with their coping and resiliency.CWinegarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17263802360569827604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-85138291262701203012012-07-23T22:35:55.997-05:002012-07-23T22:35:55.997-05:00In the conclusion, the author explains that you ca...In the conclusion, the author explains that you cannot understand and mentor a gifted child till you understand yourself and realize your strengths and weaknesses. (page129 ebook) I think those ideas are important for us to remember. For a long time, I didn't understand the airline directive, "Put on your own oxygen mask first." We can't fill up others if we are empty ourselves.Denise Healynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-81619323950848787912012-07-23T22:23:10.277-05:002012-07-23T22:23:10.277-05:00I agree with T. Healey's post on July 16. Wit...I agree with T. Healey's post on July 16. With the demands on the Writing EOC test (three one-page essays with revising and editing questions in four hours) teaching our students strategies to work through their tendencies for perfectionism is very important. <br />Some of our g/t students across the district were overwhelmed with the limited time, didn't finish, and therefore failed. Sometimes we have the luxury of time to make it perfect. Sometimes we have to be satisfied with "good enough" and move on.Denise Healynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-21711073352689926462012-07-23T17:55:46.068-05:002012-07-23T17:55:46.068-05:00@/StaceyL...I love the sheets too; however, I am g...@/StaceyL...I love the sheets too; however, I am going to need practice at facilitating this in my young students. While highly logical, I wonder how mature they are. I know many adults that are logical but at times very immature.skippyjohn joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06743211062918059060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7890292110065653346.post-33641446070355935572012-07-23T17:49:32.003-05:002012-07-23T17:49:32.003-05:00I did not find many more ahas as this section was ...I did not find many more ahas as this section was more of the scenarios. What did speak to me is the need for teachers to take the lead in helping gifted students to have 'life skills.' As educators the burden of raising all children continues fall on us. The emotionally intense gifted student needs our help as much as the special needs student at the other end of the spectrum. It does make me wonder how long before we realize all students need some sort of coaching, regardless of their IQ or skill level.skippyjohn joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06743211062918059060noreply@blogger.com